Again, it's much simpler to diagnose the problem then to just keep throwing parts at it. Test for power at all the proper places= free.
So if you want to do things on the cheap, start with testing.

well i have a good battery and my cables are all fine it just wont crank

Don't you have a thread on this going on another forum? And didn't someone on that other forum give you extremely detailed instructions on how to test and diagnose your problem? Pretty sure I saw it. It was the thread where another guy suggested you unplug your MAP sensor and plug it back in, too.

sorry im trying to get this figured out

how come my starter didnt start wen i tryed jumping it

my starter just stoped working one day, you might need to buy a new or refurb and slap it on and give it a try, the refurb ones arnt to expensive

earlier i connected the two connections on my starter with a screw driver and it sparked but ran for a couple seconds after i disconnected it then i tried jumping it again and it wouldnt budge

No that is this thread, because I suggested it and got flamed.

which relay is the starter relay i dont know which one it is in the row of four

thanks that relay picture will help alot

if im gettin the dash lights to turn on when im turning the key doesnt that mean that most likely my ignition switch is good an that something else is my probelm

You were given detailed instructions in the other thread on how to determine what the cause is. You have chosen to ignore them and keep asking the same questions in multiple places. Sorry to sound rude, but don't ask for advice and then ignore excellent suggestions.

cruiser, he has another thread on this forum where I was trying to explain things and he ditched it.

That's my point. He's been given great advice, ignores it, and keeps asking the same questions repeatedly in different threads.