What shocks for a 2" lift? I do not want to have to buy BPE's or press in bar pins.

 

For 2" you would probably be ok using stock shocks. Or you could order a set of 3" shocks. Either way no BPE or pressing of bar pins.

 

What 3" shocks? My stock are over extending. I believe the monroes have longer travel?

 

get some 3" lift shocks. tons of info on them. i use 2" BDS TJ shocks in the front of mine. the rear has bar pin elims and you already said no on those which gets rid of the cheap options.

http://www.rocky-road.com/xjome.html

 

I used some new Jeep Wrangler Rubicon shocks. These things are perfectly valved for the XJ. You can find em on eBay for around $50-$60 sometimes. There are quiet a few write-ups on how to make them work, pretty simple stuff.