There we go that's what I'm looking for. Honestly this is what I'm looking like in order.
3.5 RE lift with or without shocks not sure yet
Hack n tap
3/4 spacers
Cross over steering (stock stuff is wore)
Extended brake lines
Adjustable upper control arms (upgrade from wore out stock)
Adjustable track bar. Somebody drilled a new hole and reused the stock one on the current lift.

Maybe just maybe with this it'll ride better than the tank it is now. Worse than any other xj I've ever been in

 

If you go to crossover steering you will need to fix the tracbar angle. I would reccomed just doing the serious off-road 1ton utk kit.

 

When I said cross over I was incorrect I ment a kit just like the one you listed which appears to be pretty heavy duty. Only thing is I'd rather not drill the knuckles. I'll probably end up shopping for an identical kit without the 1 ton TRE. It shouldnt get wheeled on hard enough to need that.