So my GF has been in my ear for the past year n a half about selling my Jeep so I can start saving money for us to move in together. I tell her that I should upgrade it to get a little more money because I wont get a lot for the problems it has, but now it gets worse and worse. I can't talk about my Jeep without her getting scorched on my bad spendings for my Jeep but then she wants me to upgrade it to go to the snow. I keep going back n forth on selling it and keeping it but I'm very frustrated.

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No one has the right or authority to tell you what to do with your personal property. It's your Jeep. You earned it.

 

The thing about girlfriends is that they are only girlfriends......

 

Sounds like she's forcing moving in with you and you're not ready. Also XJs don't bring much money without being perfect stock condition or very well built, all other middle basic builds don't bring much to the table.

 

I would upgrade it to go to the snow. If that's something you want too?

 

No, don't sell.

Legally, you can't sell her, and even if you could, it wouldn't be right to do that to the next guy.

Just give her away. Send her away. Walk away.

One or both of you is not mature enough for commitment.

 

Ha! That's just entirely too funny..

 

That's all I needed to read right there.

If you give her that control now you'll never get it back. She's a GF so the commitment level, while important, is still really low overall.

Relationships where one person tries to control the other typically don't last. One person always feels put upon and eventually ends up unhappy.

What you do is your decision. Only you can decide what's truly important to you.

 

The relationship with the Jeep will get better with time and money, the relationship with the "girlfriend" won't. Keep the Jeep .....dump the girl.

 

My GF won't let me sell my XJs and encouraged me to buy back one I sold... which I did. She also voluntarily started driving one of them and calls it hers.

Sounds like you might need a new GF.

 

This sounds exactly like what my friend just went through. GF wanted to get a place together, he said yes and had to sell everything to have enough for the first months payment (kept his XJ though). He lasted about 1 week living with her. Money lost, lesson learned.

This is part of the reason my other half just doesnt know how much I spend. And if she asks, I will tell her but I might stretch the truth a bit. For example, I am about to dive in to the timing belt replacement on my Evo. When she asks why I am replacing the cams and springs at the same time, I will just tell her its part of doing the timing belt job. She doesnt need to know they are aftermarket. Ohh and by the way, the timing belt took out the turbo so I have to replace that too! Haha.

 

Don't move in with your girlfriend, that's your first mistake, and don't involve her in your financial decisions either. She is your girlfriend not your wife.

 

well, if you have to sell your jeep just to be able to afford to move into a new place together, then maybe you're not financially ready to make that decision yet.

keep the jeep, and if she really likes you, she will wait till you BOTH can afford to move in together and pay the bills.

you give into her now, she will have control of you and your finances for as long as you two are together.