So I have a 2000 xj with a 3in add a leaf lift. Last weekend I put 2in coil spacers and shackles for the rear. Giving me a total of 5in of lift. I have done anything else with the suspension. Ive been told that my death wobble could be my steering stabilizer. But im not quite sure yet. Does anyone have any other guesses

 

Did your kit come with adjustable control arms, track bar, sway bar end links? I am betting not. Your shocks are probably too short now as well. After you go past 3" you will need to replace those stock parts at a minimum. If it didnt require much more work companies would sell cheep 5" kits but they dont for that very reason, it takes many more modifications to handle right and be safe.

Get ready to open the wallet.

 

Is it possible to cut the coil spacer down to just 1in instead of 2in

 

Your issue most likely stems from the change in caster a toe in angles with the change in lift height. The stock arms will pull the pinion down and decrease caster considerably. You are also approaching the limits of the stock suspension geometries ability to keep the front axle under control regardless of what arms you use. After 4.5" things get real squirrely quickly, and a major change is required at several points.