My old man threw a fit when I bought my Jeep 4 years ago...."You should have bought a damn Honda...Honda Honda Honda Honda" (The man's worked on German crap his whole life, and drives a Honda )

He's thrown fits about everything I wanted to do to it, and back before I really knew much about cars, he helped me work on it but it came with a price (all I got to hear the entire time was how WONDERFUL his 13 year old Honda is). Finally it got to the point where I said f*** it, and started doing stuff on my own....with the help of my friends who own XJ's. Between all of us, we can fix just about anything.

Dad and I have our good days and bad days on the Jeep. I find it hilarious that whenever he was helping me work on it, he'd get to a bolt that wouldn't come off and start cussin and swearin and yellin everything in the book only to have the bolt still not budge. Then i'd calmly walk up and it would almost fall right off

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Originally Posted by XJ Stryker
Turn it over to him and when you do Unplug the CPS and tuck it back behind the Valve cover to where he will never find it. He can't sell it if it doesn't run.


Then make a deal with him tell him if you can fix it then the title is yours. But do some crazy stuff like change the valve cover or whatever. blah blah blah then hook up the CPS and start it up. play the game that hey I even know how to work on this truck.





^^ that would prolly work he would never know, jus mess around for like 2 days under the hood, he would be in the house like "i told you so" then fix it and laugh in his face

yeah my pops is the same way...a real bubble burster as well..

he still wonders why I purchased a second XJ... "You should have gotten something that gets 40 mpg"

or: "The only thing you're gonna do with that thing is destroy it in the woods"

Thanks for the confidence dad...

Genius.

I can't really tell you how to handle this situation, because I've rarely spoken to my father in 10 years, and when I bump into him around town it's like seeing someone I went to high school with but didn't really know. But what I CAN tell you is that you should move out. Just move out. Yes, college is hard on the finances, and living at home would make it so much easier, but from the sound of it you'd be much better off getting out of a toxic environment and focusing on your future without any unnecessary stress. And once you're out from under their roof, you get to do whatever you want.

That's OK.....Some people get the Jeep thing, others don't. We just see more to them than the average idiot

I don't think many teenagers see eye to eye with their dads. I didn't and now 10 years later we are pretty close. But I did the join the army thing, so I got away from the situation before we went to fist fighting.

I get the feeling Stryker has tried this before.....

Wow, just Wow! This does show there are parallel universes out there.

I bought my son an XJ because I thought it was safer and a much better value than "economy" cars today. And I'm the one that wants to put a small lift and new tires on it (of course, I like turning wrenches). His position is "yea, whatever" but that's because he's just learning how to drive and is a little intimidated by the stick. But I want him to learn right...

I stuck my first CJ (which I bought myself) when I was 17, and unstuck it, too. I've been in countless predicaments when off road, but also enjoyed some of the most beautiful parts of the country that most people never see.

You don't learn about life by avoiding it. Keep your chin up.

My mom is sort of the same way...she wanted me to be in something safe and not so small (and that's been shown 3 times now to be a very smart move). She doesn't get the whole lift thing...and she usually just rolls her eyes as just about every time I go to visit her i've done something new to the Jeep

Between my Jeep, her Jeep, and the Truck...we don't like small cars

my old man doed the same crap im 199 and still livin at home. i just made sure that i pay for all my own stuff that way i can do what eer i want to wit it and he really cant stop me

Hubba, your dad sounds like a bit of a control freak, maybe abit of OCD... But you do live under his roof and unfortunately while you do that you have to live by his rules. Is there any chance of trying to spend some form of quality time with your dad w/o bickering about "i wanna lift the jeep" ? Its not the end of the world the jeep will still wheel just fine in stock form. good luck man, this isnt the end of the world.

shouldnt you have moved out like 180 years ago?

More like 181 years ago...

But I think Hubba has the right idea. Write it off and try to get HIS life going.
No matter what he does with the Jeep, his father will hold it over him. Taunting him at every turn. Why? Only his father knows why.
And I don't think he will come onto CF and TRY to explain it to us.

Some family bonds are volatile and no amount of begging or scheming will change that.

Get YOUR affairs straightened out. Create YOUR life. Then get YOURSELF a Jeep that is in YOUR name. Then do what YOU want.

Maybe, when the time is right, a cheap Jeep will fall into your possession.

Whatever you do...Good luck, my friend

Thanks guys, I really just gotta hurry up and wait so I can get out of the house. I have a feeling as soon as I move out for college, things will get moving.

As for answering to some of the comments here:
Control freak is a perfect way to describe him.

You're right, I didn't come on here to try to explain why he acts the way he does.

Yes, I am the product of a very broken home.

I'm not avoiding life, I've been butting heads with him over this ever since I started working on it (he even *****ed about me replacing the stereo.)

I don't consider my jeep to be 'work,' an idea that seems to evade him.

My dad doesn't enjoy the 'quality time' bit, and neither do I. Every one of these we've had in the past has been him getting drunk and me attempting to enjoy whatever we're doing and failing to enjoy it.

Thanks for the moral support guys.

yeah man, parents are a pain but what do ya do without them. my dad was all for me getting my xj and my mom just rolled her eyes at me. i sold my old car to get it and my parents were against me lifting it, but as long as i paid for it, i was good. ive paid for everything myself, the jeep, gas, parts, mods, insurance is $100 a month for me right now. on top of that, i pay for my lunches at work and dates with my girlfriend. the only thing my parents ***** about now is me getting home late and my exhaust waking up the neighbors..haha.

but yeah dude i feel your pain. i turn 18 in 4 days. as soon as i graduate, i plan to move out with my girlfriend and into an apartment, work full time for a year and go to a community college or something. keep your head up man and soemtimes slinging **** back works too. i do that with my parents and sometimes, it makes them see that i am truly not kidding.