Defiance665

Shelleys grandma is 86 years old, has had about three or four strokes. She was staying in las vegas with Shelleys aunt, the aunt finally decided that she has had enough and shipped her home to Michigan. She pretty much dropped everything on them, they had about a weeks notice.. Anyway "Grandma" has been here since Tuesday, kinda in her own world; sleeps all day, cant really talk, cant eat or walk.. This morning she was unresponsive she was supposed to have a doctors appointment and they could not get her out of bed/into a wheelchair. They had to call an ambulance. She is now in the hospital, In "observation". Anyway, the doctor said since shes not eating or drinking but seems comfortable the best thing to do would be to "let nature take its course". He said she is worn out, and going to a nursing home would cause "prolonged misery". I agree with this, some people wont, but thats not the point of this thread.. They said to feed her, give her something to drink if she wants it, but as long as shes comfortable there isnt much to do. They say she has about 4 days left. She is going back to Shelleys to stay in the house so she wont be alone with "it happens". Her mom and dad are having hospice come and stay in the house, to help with the nursing for the next couple days..

Anyway, Just wanted to post this. Any thoughts to my girlfriends family will be appreciated. Today she said something that kinda hit me, the doctor walked over to her (keep in mind shes been sleeping about 23hrs a day and hasnt really been responsive) and said "are you hurting or is there anything we can do for you today?" Her eyes shot open and she said "make me well.." and then closed her eyes again.

Thank you,
Dylan

GreenClassic

I'm sorry about the situation your girlfriend's family was put in. It's always hard to lose a family member.

I know I don't know all of the details, but the aunt should not have made the grandma travel. That would have been very uncomfortable for her given the state she's in. I hope the grandma's not suffering too much and I hope she goes peacefully.

I wish your girlfriend and her family the best through this hard time.

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Sounds like she wants to live but that may be cruel to her in the long run. She may not understand how frail and debilitated she really is. What does Shelby want? I am old and if I were in that shape I think I would want to just go. When the Dr. asked her she may have just been dreaming of her youth and wanted those days back. It may not be realistic to consider the possibility of restoring her health if she is so far deteriorated.

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I hope everything works out all right...

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Defiance665

I think she didnt really know what was going on... She doesnt even know shes in Michigan, she thought she was in Ohio. Girlfriends name is Shelley, her Grandmas is Eleanor. We dont really know what she wants, theres not really any way to communicate with her. If shes hungry shell tell us, if shes thirsty shell tell us, but thats about it... "When the Dr. asked her she may have just been dreaming of her youth and wanted those days back." I think she kinda knows shes had some strokes, and knew it was a doctor so that just kinda came out. "It may not be realistic to consider the possibility of restoring her health if she is so far deteriorated." Doctor said it could be done, but they would have to use "a rubber tube" to feed her, she would be in bed for the rest of here life. He said as long as shes comfortable the best thing is to just let her go...

Thanks for the thoughts everyone.

Defiance665

Well, Shelley just called. Grandmas not coming home, she stopped breathing for about 2 minutes this morning, had another stroke. Theyre keeping her in observation till noon tomorrow, then will move her up to the main hospital floor for 5 days. They dont think she will even make it 5 days..

Texas Twitch

my prayers are with you, shelley, eleanor, and all yall's family. good luck.

Defiance665

Shelleys mom was at the hospital with grandma today. She told Shelley that grandma is laying there going through all her memories, telling her life story pretty much. Shes not really saying it to anyone in particular, just laying there talking. She was talking about stuff shes done with Shelleys grandpa, about buying a pontiac, etc.. They say thats a sign that things are about to come to an end...

Thanks. Were gonna go see her tomorrow, if she lasts that long. Were hoping she will so Shelley can go see her one more time...

winston427

If she is reliving past memories, then it sounds like she is ready to join previously departed loved ones and walk with them again. Sometimes a person will hold on to life just waiting to hear someone else tell them that it is ok to let go. We will all keep Shelley and the family in our thoughts and prayers.

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Defiance665

Just wanted to say that Shelley just called me again. Her mom wants me to help carry the casket when its time. She said grandma really liked me and my curly hair. Shelley wanted me to tell you guys that she really appreciates all the comments. She read one of them and started crying; so she will read them when shes ready, but she does appreciate the thoughts..

Dylan

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Just an update (if anyone cares, lol):
Grandma is at Shelleys, has been there for a couple of days. She has had a total of about 6 strokes. As of about 2 days ago she is unresponsive and has not moved (almost coma like). Her breathing is very shallow, and she pauses for as much as 30 seconds at a time. The nurses (hospice) say that she is only using the top 1/3 of her lungs. The cats (2 house cats and 2 outside cats) have been laying on the bed with her, they usually do not get along. One of the black cats sleeps about 5 feet from her all night. Here kidneys have shut down and were thinking "its gonna happen" tonight or some time tomorrow...

Dylan

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sorry to hear about that bro. best of luck to you and her family. everything thats meant to happen will

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Defiance665

Thanks.

Well, nothings happened yet. Shes still in a coma like state. These things are uncertain for all we know she could last another month, or an hour...

caged

stay with her, keep her at home and out of the hospital. all the doctors want is for her to die, but don't get me started on that.

my mom just died a month ago, she went into the hospital but wanted to be home to die in her own bed. at least we were all around her bedside when she went.

wish her the best, give her everything she wants and let her be happy and comfortable. don't leave her alone for a minute.

best wishes.

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